sometimes NOT lying can break a marriage!

there are a few situations where lying to the wife is permissable.

there was an incident of the sahabi who was caught, by his wife, having intercourse with his slave girl.

the wife was very upset… the sahabi denied it and recited a few verses of poetry to her (which the wife believed were verses of the Quran) and then she believed her husband!

Since he read out poetry, which she wrongly assumed to be verses from the Quran, and he didnt correct her in her assumption. Thats not lying, thats purposely misleading and not correcting wrongly held assumptions.

Something wrong with use of lying in this existence, the above example, dont you think? I personally would be livid if I wrongly assumed something and the other person was aware of it and didnt correct it. Almost as if they prefer you stay naive and stupid!

But it was supported under the following pretext:

Abdullah ibn Mas’ood [radhiallaahu anhum] narrates that Rasulullah [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] said, ‘The speaking of lies leads one to immorality and immorality leads one to the fire of hell.’ (Bukhari).
This is the general rule regarding lies, but Rasulullah [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] himself made the exception to the rule and whatever Rasulullah [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] says is a revelation from Allah. He said, ‘Lies are only permitted in three instances, for a man to make his wife happy, in war and for reconciliation between people.’ (Tirmidhi).

It was pointed out that the hadith does not set out or speak of any limits on lying within these contexts, however that doesnt automatically make it permissible to lie when caught in the act of having sex with your slave! (which in itself is not impermissible)

And the person who posted the story couldnt provide a reference. He heard it at a talk. Its unbelievable the amount of people who go to these talks and simply absorb things like sponges without verifying or seeking clarification. Its passive learning.

What do you think of lying in the above scenario?

EDIT: Here’s the narration, there’s no indication or commentary of its isnad, or authenticity.

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